22 Jun · Karen Melton · 3 Comments

Wounded In The Womb: The Beginning of My Healing Story

At the age of 23 I had a spontaneous flashback to the womb. Whilst in an altered state of consciousness I was able to perceive myself on many ‘out of my daily reality’ levels. In the flashback I experienced my mother attempting to abort me, and I had a very familiar feeling in my abdominal/umbilical area. It was a stabbing sensation, something I’d often felt in relationships, and which didn’t feel good. I ‘saw’, in my minds eye, strands of energy coming out from my belly button into all areas of my life. In the perhaps seconds, or minutes, that it took for me to have this amazing experience, I could deeply feel and understand that my prenatal experience was profoundly affecting all aspects of my life. This was mind blowing, especially at the age  of 23, a time before I’d even begun exploring myself in counseling and therapy.  It was a life changing ‘aha’ moment and I have been on a life long journey of discovery into my prenatal and birth journey. The effects and experiences of this early developmental period have become my work; I am now a Somatic Pre & Perinatal healer.

For many years I traveled this path alone. As I began therapy, joined therapy groups, and went to many workshops and trainings, I drove everyone nuts continually exploring this material. None of the therapists I met, or worked with, knew anything about the pre and perinatal period, so I essentially felt alone. I couldn’t understand why no one else was talking about this subject, especially within the Psychotherapy and healing professions! I knew that if I’d had an experience in the womb that was affecting my life so deeply and pervasively, that this period must be affecting us all profoundly.

One day in 1989 a dear friend waved a flyer at me, saying “You HAVE to go on this residential workshop!” – it was a prenatal and birth workshop in Surrey, England. “£300!  You must be joking!!”, I replied. It might as well have been £3,000 as I was a single parent living on the poverty line. She said, “I don’t care how you get that money, borrow it, beg for it, just get it, you have to go on this!” Well, I got the money, as one does when important things are at stake, and went to the workshop. As soon as I walked into the room and saw William sitting cross legged on the floor, I ‘knew’ that he could ‘go there’. Relief is too small a word to describe how this felt to me after so many years of searching for someone with this knowledge who could help me with my womb trauma. Simultaneously, I felt enormous terror rise up in me.

I had felt terrified all my life, especially in groups, and had often joined groups out of curiosity about why they scared me so much. Talking in a group, especially about emotions, was particularly terrifying; coming out, being seen, vulnerable, and heard were extremely hard. I later discovered that this was because my strategy for surviving in the womb after my mothers’ attempted abortion was to ‘play dead’. I stayed very still and quiet feeling that if they didn’t know I was here they would not kill me. Consequently, at a deep level I lived my life in hiding, unconsciously feeling that I was in danger of annihilation from everyone except close trusted friends. I’d learnt back then how, as a matter of survival, to always keep the lid on my terror, look like I was ok, and to do what I wanted in spite of it. I was described as a ‘good baby’.

We began William’s group with a ‘go round’, and before I’d even told anyone my name, I went into a full-on, flat out terror attack – sobbing, panicking, unable to speak. This was amazing because it was the first time in my life that I had been able to let myself express the terror I had always held inside, I had never let it out before, nor ever felt such a huge ‘panic’.  I had always been very controlled emotionally, so this was very shocking to me and most out of character. Just finding a safe place for my prenatal terror of annihilation was the beginning of healing my core wound.

Dr Emerson used a direct regression technique, and we regressed into many places during the workshop: birth, pre-discovery (that time before your parents know you’re there), and conception. I experienced myself as a cell dividing after conception, and that’s still one of the most amazing experiences I’ve ever had. I had a felt-sense of cell division in my body, the sensation went all the way down my back and it felt like energy running up and down my spine, I have never had this felt sense again in any other context.

To have my prenate seen, held, loved and acknowledged in this workshop, and to be able to talk about what happened to me with someone who knew a lot about it, was incredibly healing, uplifting, and validating. Like a long awaited meal, this was the real food for me. Since that first workshop 30 years ago I’ve continued to follow, listen to, and heal my inner prenate. I’ve learned to care for her and to give her what she needs to feel safe, and to listen to her wisdom, and her feelings.

If everyone became aware of how conscious and sentient we all are as predate’s we could change the World one baby at a time. I love that bumper sticker “Peace on Earth Begins With Birth – Support Midwives”, except I feel it should read “Peace on Earth Begins Before Birth….”

We all have a vulnerable prenate within, I hope that yours feels welcome,  happy, safe, and loved.

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  • karen Melton says:

    There is now an RSS feed on my blog so you can hook up to it, thanks Karen

  • Charlotte says:

    I’m so glad you found the information and path you needed, and that you are sharing your experience with others so that you can help them heal. I’ve been studying birth and pregnancy for the last year and came across some studies on failed abortion attempts. They implied similar things to what you’re describing, but in a much more impersonally. Your narrative is very illuminating, I also think that world would be a much more peaceful place if everybody could have a good, supportive prenatal period.

    • Karen Melton says:

      You are absolutely right about that! Part of my work is healing trauma and part of it is about conscious early parenting that takes into account all that we have learned from the “Little One’s” about the journey into life, and what creates an optimal womb space. I like to extend the idea of the womb beyond the physical womb, into what one of my teachers calls the “attachment womb” (Dr Gordon Neufeld). thank you for your feedback
      warmly Karen

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