Womb & Birth Play for Children

Content: Common ways that children communicate their need for support → Benefits of this family work → Description → Cost → Structure of the Work

Common ways that children communicate their need for support:

  • Tactile sensitivity
  • Sleep issues/disturbances
  • Struggling with transitions (going to sleep, getting up, leaving the house, going into school, etc)
  • Insecure attachment
  • Power struggles, and not responding to authority and boundaries (may have become an alpha kid – needing to be the one in charge).
  • Inconsolable crying or long periods of crying
  • An inability to settle down and/or rest
  • A revved nervous system (can be the result of imprints, Pitocin, unresolved trauma, etc)
  • Being over emotional
  • Ungrounded behaviors like banging into things a lot, not finding their feet, scattered energy, etc
  • Disconnection from self and/or others, or from Source
  • Separation anxiety
  • Anger/rage, grief, and sadness
  • Hyper-vigilant (on high alert towards, people, sounds, environment, etc)

Benefits of this family work:

  • Learn new ways to listen to your child at deeper levels, so that you can understand what is driving their behavior.
  • Support your child to begin to unravel their internal knots, build new resources, and process unresolved trauma and events.
  • Have some time for the whole family to integrate what is unresolved from the pre-conception through newborn period, which can sometimes be a very difficult and traumatic journey. This can allow everyone to move on and feel more connected and settled inside. Each person has their own experience of this important life transition, including baby.
  • Supportive development of parenting, co-parenting, and attachment skills for parents.
  • Clearing of blocks and pain within the family system, including ancestral influences.
  • Enhanced attachment and closer relationships within the family.
  • A more settled child, and more adult to adult connection between parents.
  • Learning to play with your child – only if you want to.
  • Using the ‘pause’ and mutual support and cooperation as parenting, and relational, tools.

Support for your child means that s/he won’t have to grow up constellating around unresolved, and unheard, pain and trauma.

At a young age my son experienced bouts of deep sadness, withdrawal, and intense rage. In the first session with Karen Melton - to our astonishment - our son reenacted his entire birth without words, right there in front of our eyes. It was as if he knew just what he needed to do. This is because of Karen's presence, and approach. She always provided a space in which my son felt held, safe, and seen, which was a rare experience for him. Karen worked closely with our whole family to improve dynamics and create healthy attachments; she was a great support for me as a mother, and to my son in helping him feel safe enough to reach out and form deeper connections with others.

Alissa Coenen, Teacher, Sonoma County

Description

This special play environment is designed to support children and families to come into alignment, resolve early events and traumas, increase secure attachment, and integrate experiences from pre-conception through infancy. The pre and perinatal period provides us with our foundations for life, and can be eventful.

Parents are present for each session of one hour duration, and on a telephone debrief with Karen within 2 days of each session. The debrief is for the adults to discuss what happened in the session, for Karen to get feedback about how your child is doing at home, and for parenting and attachment support if needed.

Children need to tell their story in their own way, and be heard, and they can do this during supportive play, with deep listening. During play we can create new internal resources for your child as past challenging experiences are explored. We empathically attune as they tell us about what happened, and how it felt. Early trauma can be healed; children don’t have to hold unresolved hurts inside.

Children appreciate having the time to process pent up stuck issues that are held in their body-system, and to tell their story in their own way, through play.

My son, now 5 years old, was born at 25 weeks and was in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for 3½ months where I met him as a NICU nurse. I cared for him, bonded with him, came to love him, and eventually adopted him. In the safe play environment provided by Karen he was able to process a lot of the trauma he had experienced in the hospital, and in the womb. I learned new parenting skills as Karen supported my parenting and strengthened our attachment. I am forever grateful!! Thank you Karen!

NICU RN, Sacramento, CA

Cost

Sliding scale $175 – $120 per 1 hour session. Debriefs are charged at your chosen hourly rate by the minute, and are paid for at the following session. See below for the structure of the work.

Visa, Master Card, Discover and American Express and Paypal are accepted.

Call me for a free initial telephone conversation.

PLEASE NOTE: A 24-hour notice is required to cancel or change an appointment, otherwise the full fee is charged.

Structure of the work

  1. We begin with a free initial telephone conversation.
  2. Intake forms will be filled in.
  3. A play session date is arranged for the child, both parents are usually present, and this is one hour long.
  4. Before the first session only we will have a pre-session telephone check-in and set your intentions for the work. Your child’s intention will become apparent in the session.
  5. Each session is followed by a telephone, or Skype, debrief session with the adults within a couple of days of the play session. During the debrief session we will discuss and process the session together; this helps your child to move forward and is supportive because s/he is not processing everything alone. During debriefs we will also check-in about what is happening at home, discuss parenting, and I will give parenting and attachment support if it is needed.
  6. As part of the work it can be necessary for one parent to come in for a session with their child, for both parents to come in without their child for a parenting session, or for one parent to come in alone, depending on what is needed in your family.

Karen was an invaluable resource for my daughter and I after I had an emergency c-section. Her skill and compassion created a safe space for my four-year-old daughter to work through her birth experience. I gained clarity about how it affected our attachment, and my parenting, and learned how to be more available for my daughter during difficulty. Karen's work is subtle and powerful. She creates an environment in which children can engage in exploration of their birth experience with play and movement. My daughter naturally revisited and recreated her birth experience, without any explicit prompting her play unfolded organically, and bought me to tears more than once. I’m immensely grateful for the time we spent with Karen, it was a gift. I highly recommend her to anyone interested in understanding, and changing, deeper patterns that interfere with connection and positive attachment.

Sasha Benedetti, Elementary School Teacher, Sonoma County

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